I deactivated my Facebook account in November of 2017. It was not easy. When I first started my blog, Facebook generated 90% of the traffic. Now after years my traffic is generated from the search engines.
On a more personal note, I never used Facebook to remind me of my close friends birthdays. They are in my calendar on my phone and backed up to the clouds. My account had over 1,500 friends and honestly I knew maybe three hundred of them. And of those 300 I would call 30 my friends. Facebook has very cleverly changed what are understanding of friends had been through the centuries. I have read article upon article about how Facebook uses and did this very much by Design our need to be liked. So each time somebody gets a like it sends endorphins into their brain and they get just a little more hooked. I like myself, maybe that’s narcissistic but I don’t think so. I truly believe you need to like yourself before you can know how to like others.
And as far as far definition of what a friend is here goes. When I was a little kid my dad told me a story that his dad told them and that he told me his dad had been told by his dad and that it went down Generations. A boy lives on a small village. He is asked about his father when he reaches his teens how many friends does he had. The boy responds I have so many I can’t count them. He asked his father how he had so few friends. His father responded friends are not just people you know but people who actually care deeply about you. He told his son to go and kill a lamb, yes I hate this part but it is somewhat biblical, and put it into a burlap bag. Go to your friends all of those friends that you said you had and tell them you have just killed a man and can they help you. The ones who don’t slam the door on your face are your friends. I’m not telling you that they’re going to go and help you with your crime by hiding the fact that you did it but rather help you through this horrible thing you had done. That’s what a friend is.
Can we really truly say that all of those people that’s what we now have as so-called friends on Facebook who do that for us, I don’t have to think about this my answer is no.
So if you want to follow what I did there are some simple steps. Find out which of your friends birthdays are important to you and put them in your calendar. Make sure you have all of those friends contact information. Then go to the Facebook help area and ask how to deactivate your account. Depending on your platform and the vice they will be different. They will try to tug at your heartstrings at this point. Don’t let them. And then they will ask why you’re doing this. And this is important because there are 15 reasons but the important one you should check is other. And explain in your own words how upset you are at them for having allowed another country to meddle in other countries elections. They have a responsibility to their 2 billion users and they are failing miserably at it. Congressional leaders last week came out of hearings with Facebook and in a bipartisan scream that’s Facebook transparency and gave them ways of fixing what Facebook does. I have a simple way to stop at least some of what Russian does. Don’t accept rubles for political ads in another country. I don’t think that’s takes a rocket scientist to figure out. And I think Russia has a few rocket scientist on hand. And yes, Russia will find ways around this but that’s what they have something called algorithms add Facebook to circumvent.
Facebook will never change unless we force them to. I have a feeling that 2016 once a dress rehearsal for how Mark Zuckerberg plans to become president and either 2020 or 2024 depending on the political winds. That might seem harsh but think about it. You don’t see Google doing what Facebook did. First Google is a search engine and yes they have a duty to remove news that is false and opinions that are inappropriate but that’s not what Facebook is. Twitter gets literally hundreds of millions of tweets each day and again that’s not what Facebook does. I am not saying that Google and Twitter are without blame but to me in comparison with what Facebook did it’s something that they have announced they will fix and I believe them. And also neither Twitter on Google has a name like Mark Zuckerberg that everyone knows as their founders. Yes some people know who started Google and Twitter but it’s not as universal as Mark Zuckerberg.
When I said I lost 45 lb it was not clickbait. Ask my friends and neighbors and they will tell you I am transformed. Nothing magical, I had all this time on my hands so I started walking around beautiful downtown Los Angeles. I have a great gym in the building so I started going to the gym still had lots of time. Well then I started noticing that I was eating crappy food and I started watching what I was eating and I’ve gone from a size 38 waist to a size 32 and from an extra large shirt to a medium men. I went from 224 lb to 177 and I am 6ft 2. I’m not promising you all will lose weight but I’m sure you’ll find some great things to do with the time that you have been wasting on Facebook.